Sunday, December 4, 2016

7 Things We Tell Ourselves About Our Anxiety and Stress ...That Aren't Always True

There are myths about anxiety and stress we tell ourselves to get past those constant feelings of anxiousness, worry and stress. Some of these myths are:

“Everyone worries…”
“Feeling anxious all the time, is just a part of life.”
“Once I get past this challenge/problem, I won’t feel like this any longer.”
“This is just the way life is.  Everyone is stressed out.”
“There is nothing I can do to change how I am feeling.”
“Until all the problems are solved, I am just going to feel anxious.”
“It’s not that serious. This too shall pass.”  

In some ways, the above statements could be considered true.  Everyone does worry. Everyone does have stress and most people feel that once they solve all their problems, they will no longer be a victim of stress and anxiety.  

Statistics show:
  • Women are more likely than men (28 percent vs. 20 percent) to report having a great deal of stress (8, 9 or 10 on a 10-point scale).

  • Almost half of all women (49 percent) surveyed said their stress has increased over the past five years, compared to four in 10 (39 percent) men.

  •  Women are more likely to report that money (79 percent compared with 73 percent of men) and the economy (68 percent compared with 61 percent of men) are sources of stress while men are far more likely to cite that work is a source of stress (76 percent compared with 65 percent of women).

  • Women are more likely to report physical and emotional symptoms of stress than men, such as having had a headache (41 percent vs. 30 percent), having felt as though they could cry (44 percent vs. 15 percent), or having had an upset stomach or indigestion (32 percent vs. 21 percent) in the past month.

  • Married women report higher levels of stress than single women, with one-third (33 percent) reporting that they have experienced a great deal of stress in the past month (8, 9 or 10 on a 10-point scale) compared with one in five (22 percent) of single women. Similarly, significantly more married women report that their stress has increased over the past five years (56 percent vs. 41 percent of single women). Single women are also more likely than married women to say they feel they are doing enough to manage their stress (63 percent vs. 51 percent).

  •  Married women are more likely than single women to report they have experienced the following due to stress in the past month: feeling as though they could cry (54 percent vs. 33 percent), feeling irritable or angry (52 percent vs. 38 percent), having headaches (48 percent vs. 33 percent) and experiencing fatigue (47 percent vs. 35 percent).   
statistics from the American Psychological Association  

What is also true, is that you don’t have to always feel stressed, anxious, and full of worry.  There are things you can do to alleviate those feelings and start living a life without excessive stress and worry. 

When your stress and anxiety is at a level where you can’t concentrate, can’t sleep, you feel constantly overwhelmed and your life feels out of control, there are things you can do to make a change. 

I have been there and I learned how to overcome my anxious thoughts and stress using holistic method.   These methods (DeStressfirmations)  are taught in my online course DeStress TheMess.  In this course we talk about changes how diet, movement, EFT, essential oils, meditation, herbs, vitamin supplements and more can impact your anxiety and stress levels.

You don’t have to settle for the myths you tell yourself about stress and anxiety.  There are definitely things you can do that will help you live a life without continual feelings of stress and anxiety.

Click here to find out more about the course "DeStress The Mess"

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

My Re-Introduction to Life - Living A Well and Holistic Life After 40, 50, 60 and Beyond

Many have asked what is it I actually do.  
So I decided to re-introduce myself to you! 

I love helping Women over 40 thrive in their lives.  For me life didn't begin until after 50!! Now at 59 I am having a ball. Mostly because I have learned how to live a holistic life that addresses my mind, body and spirit needs.  It's not always easy and I am still learning.  One thing I know for sure it is my passion to share with other women what I have learned through the products and services I promote. 

The coming year promises to be interesting.  I am more concerned than ever that Women take good care of themselves by reducing their stress and anxiety.  I know quite a bit about that because I had an anxiety disorder for almost 10 years.  It was not until I decided to make some lifestyle changes that my life began to change for the better.  

If you are suffering from stress, continual anxious thoughts, fatigue, lack of focus and depression I understand...I have been there.  What I have learned may help you.  

Check out the Wellness Woman Holistic Living Academy - great online classes that can help you learn how to holistically reduce your stress and reduce your anxiety

Check out my ebook and  journal DeStress The Mess - Minimize The Impact of Stress On Your Life, Maximize The Joy In Your Life 

Check out my magazine Wellness Woman 40 and Beyond E-Magazine

Check out my new podcast series What's Inside You - Minds, Body, Energy"

 Check out Intuition Mastery Summit 

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Sunday, November 6, 2016

12 Ways To Re-Energize, Re-New, and Re-Store Your Spirit - Even During The Stressful Holidays

Taking a break during the hustle and bustle of the holidays is a must...take a "destress" break.

It's that time of year!  The holidays bring to us wonderful times with family and friends.  The holidays also brings stress! There are many things you can do to keep yourself from going over the "stress edge:  Here are some of my favorite things to do so I won't be come a "holiday stress victim" 

  • Journal  - Getting your feelings out as the holidays progress can be helpful.  Make it a priority to  take some time to write in your journal and write everything down! Write down how your day went and if it didn't go well write why.  Go ahead and write down all the negative feelings, frustrations, hurts, anger whatever it is you are feeling. 

  • Walk It Off - Adding a quick walk to your day can help relieve that holiday stress. Getting outside in nature and taking a brisk walk does wonders for alleviating stress. Try taking a quick 15 minute walk to energize you and boost your mood.

  • Nap - The holidays are busy but it really is okay to take a break during the day.  Take a power nap for about 15 to 30 minutes during the day.  You will be refreshed, renewed and renergized. 

  • Dance - Holiday stress can zap the fun our of the day.  It's a great idea to get out your favorite music, crank it up and dance.  Relieve your stress and get your mojo back. The feel good hormones start going and you will feel great!

  • Gratitude -  There are many things to be thankful for and the holidays is a wonderful way to let someone know you appreciate them.  Write a thank you not to a co-worker, neighbor or friend.  It feels great to show someone else appreciation.  Doing something kind for someone else is a great way to usher in more kindness, gratefulness and thankfulness in your world and the world overall. 

  • Take a Whiff - The holiday's are full of wonderful smells.  One smell you should definitely have on hand is the smell of citrus.   Researchers have concluded that the smell of citrus boost feelings of well-being and alleviates stress by upping levels of norepinephrine, a hormone that affects mood. Try carrying around a bottle of lemon essential oil.  Just take a whiff and feel an uplift in your overall mood. 

  • Skype -running out of time and still want to connect with friends and family during the holidays?  Make a date with a friend on Skype. It is always good to connect with one of your friends you haven't seen for awhile. If you don't have an account on Skype here is the link ...its free!

  • Learn The Art of Saying No - During holiday preparation time there is always so much to do.  Many requests are made of us...sometimes too many. It really is okay to say "no". We all have limitations and trying to meet everyone's needs and expectations can cause a great deal of stress. Remember that you need to first take care of you and then take care of everyone else. Start saying "no " to those requests you know you can't do. 

  • Laughter- The holidays are meant to be a time of joy. Don't forget to take the time to laugh!.  Laughter gets the feel good hormones going and is good for your health.  Take the time to have a good laugh everyday. You will feel better. 

  • DeTox Your Digital - the buzzing and incessant ringing of cell phones cause holiday stress.  It is okay to change your notifications, you don't need to know every time someone post on Facebook or Twitter. Also change the ringtones to silent for some of your other alerts. All these alerts on our phone keeps us in a mode of fight or flight . Each time one of those alerts/notifications go off our adrenaline starts going. Give your self a break and turn off those alerts/notifications. 

  • Get Cured - from the "need to please disease" We all want to be a contributing part of someones happiness during the holidays. 
More Resources on how to "destress" during the holidays

The Wellness Woman Show
"Simple Strategies to Re-Energize and Re-Charge During The Holidays"

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Friday, October 7, 2016

From Weight Gain to Cancer, Your Emotional State Makes the Difference

If you have tried everything else and still can’t drop those unwanted pounds… that extra weight may very well be tied to your emotional state! “After twenty-some years and thousands of patients, I’m convinced that trapped emotions are at the basis of almost everything from phobias and anxiety attacks to cancers and fibromyalgia. The good news is that by clearing these trapped emotions, the symptoms of the disease or condition become noticeably better — and often the disease or condition itself completely disappears,” says Dr. Bradley Nelson.

A new survey conducted by Orlando Health finds the key to losing weight may lie in snapping the emotional bond that people have with food. That’s why so many people fail to lose weight or quickly regain it despite trying new diet and exercise routines. Dr. Nelson, author of the bestselling book The Emotion Code shares a unique perspective on how emotional baggage can cause weight gain, chronic disease, and cancer. Dr. Nelson has trained more than 2500 healing practitioners in 62 countries to uncover and release “trapped” negative emotions, which he calls a top cause of obesity and weight problems. Click here for Dr. Bradley's interview on What's Inside You -Mind, Body, Energy

"The trapped emotions that we develop from experiences that we have been through in our lives oftentimes manifests as fat, which is like armor that protects us from negative people and negative circumstances,” Dr. Nelson explains.
Dr. Bradley Nelson is one of the world’s foremost experts in the emerging fields of bio-energetic medicine and energy psychology. From his more than 20 years practice as a holistic physician, Dr. Nelson discerned that the vast majority of physical pain, disease and mental and emotional problems his patients suffered was rooted in trapped emotions, the unseen emotional baggage we all carry from hurtful life experiences. Through his studies of ancient medical practice and modern quantum physics, he developed The Emotion Code, a simple yet powerfully effective method anyone can learn to release the trapped emotions that block mental and physical healing.

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

4 Shows That Help You Stay Well and Live Well During Challenging Times

Tune in my shows to find out more about how to achieve health, wellness, and a joy of life after 40.  I have had the pleasure of interviewing over 600 guests in 6 years.  Many of them were Holistic Practitioners, Coaches, Authors, MD's, Psychologist, Trainers and Fitness Experts, Weight Loss Experts, Therapist, Alternative Practitioners, and more.

The Wellness Journey Radio Show 

Radio show interviews with experts in the field of wellness for the mind, body and spirit.  We cover a variety of topics such as emotional wellness, fitness, nutrition, chronic disease, weight loss, holistic living, energy healing, aromatherapy, yoga, meditation and much more

The Wellness Journey PodCast 

Entertaining and fun interviews with experts in the mind, body, spirit wellness for women over 40.  We cover a variety of topics such as emotional wellness, fitness, nutrition, chronic disease, weight loss, holistic living, energy healing, aromatherapy, yoga, meditation and much more. 

The Wellness Woman Show 

Streaming Live video show featuring women who share their inspiring stories of surviving and thriving in the midst of life altering challenges. 

What's Inside You ...Mind, Body, Energy 

A fun to listen to and informative show about wellness for the mind, body and spirit for women and men. We feature world renowned experts who share valuable and entertaining information on staying well inside and out,despite the challenging times we live in. 

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Eating Heart Healthy - Great Recipes That Can Keep Your Heart Healthy

I just had a personal experience with an affair of the heart.  It was shocking, depressing and just plain scary. I am not talking about a "love" affair of the heart, I am talking about an "attack" of the heart. My husband had a heart attack.  It was a shock. But he admits that there were several factors leading up to the heart attack:

In his case he was blessed, this heart attack was mild but at the same time a strong warning. He is now working out, using methods to decrease the impact of stress on his body, and eating heart healthy. Oh and did I mention, listening to his live-in Holistic Health Coach...ME! 

Eating heart healthy is really not that hard.  Eating heart healthy does mean not always indulging in some of our guilty pleasures that you KNOW are not good for you.  Indulging in a constant stream of high fat, high salt, high carb, is not showing your heart love.   Eating foods that are low in fat, low in salt, not fried and prepared in a healthy way is a great way to show your heart love.  It is especially important to eat heart healthy after 40. For women, heart disease is the number one killer! 

Here are some important statistics from the American Heart Association Go For The Red
  •  In 2012, 56 percent of women identified heart disease as the leading cause of death compared with 30 percent in 1997.
  • In 1997, women were more likely to cite cancer than heart disease as the leading killer (35 percent versus 30 percent); but in 2012, only 24 percent cited cancer.
  • In 2012, 36 percent of black women and 34 percent of Hispanic women identified heart disease as the top killer — awareness levels that white women had in 1997 (33 percent).
  • Women 25-34 years old had the lowest awareness rate of any age group at 44 percent.
It is important for you take charge of your life and eat heart healthy.  There are some great recipes that are heart healthy and are easy to make. The recipes below are from the Food Network and I totally love them.  I found all of them easy to cook and very tasty.  Enjoy!  Start a "love affair" with your heart today and prepare one of these tasty recipes.

Heart Healthy Quinoa Salad

Picture from Food Network

12 cups water
1 1/2 cups quinoa, rinsed
5 pickling cucumbers, peeled, ends trimmed, and cut into 1/4-inch cubes
1 small red onion, cut into 1/4-inch cubes
1 large tomato, cored, seeded, and diced
1 bunch Italian parsley leaves, chopped
2 bunches mint leaves, chopped
1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil
1/4 cup red wine vinegar
1 lemon, juiced
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
3/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
4 heads endive, trimmed and separated into individual spears
1 avocado, peeled, seeded and diced, for garnish

Bring the water to a boil in a large saucepan. Add the quinoa, stir once, and return to a boil. Cook uncovered, over medium heat for 12 minutes. Strain and rinse well with cold water, shaking the sieve well to remove all moisture.

When dry, transfer the quinoa to a large bowl. Add the cucumbers, onion, tomato, parsley, mint, olive oil, vinegar, lemon juice, salt, and pepper and toss well. Spoon onto endive spears, top with avocado, and serve.

Heart Healthy Red Lentil Soup

Picture from Food Network
3 tablespoons unsalted butter
2 onions, chopped
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 teaspoon cumin seeds, crushed
1 teaspoon coriander seeds, crushed
Salt and freshly ground black pepper
2 tablespoons tomato paste
7 cups chicken or vegetable stock
1/2 cup bulgur
1/2 cup red lentils
1/4 cup finely chopped fresh parsley
2 tablespoons finely chopped fresh mint

Melt butter in a large pot, add the onions and saute until soft, 5 to 7 minutes. Stir in the garlic, spices, and salt and pepper, and saute another minute to release the aromas. Stir in the tomato paste to blend with the onions, fry 1 to 2 minutes, then add the stock, bulgur and lentils. Cover and simmer until bulgur and lentils are thoroughly cooked and soup is thickened, about 30 to 40 minutes, stirring occasionally.

Remove from heat, stir in half of the herbs and sprinkle the remaining half over the soup. Serve immediately with yogurt to garnish.

Heart Healthy Spinach with Pomegranate Glazed Walnuts
Picture from Food Network

1/4 cup plus 2 tablespoons pomegranate juice
1 teaspoon sugar
Kosher salt
1/2 cup coarsely chopped walnuts
1/4 cup thinly sliced red onion
One 5-ounce container baby spinach
4 ounces white button mushrooms, trimmed and thinly sliced, about 1 cup
3/4 cup grape tomatoes, halved
1 tablespoon red wine vinegar
1 tablespoon good quality extra virgin olive oil

Combine 1/4 cup juice with the sugar and 1/4 teaspoon salt in a small nonstick skillet. Bring to a simmer over medium-high heat and cook, stirring occasionally, until the mixture reduces slightly, about 5 minutes. Add the walnuts and continue to cook, stirring, until the nuts are coated and dark and the liquid evaporates in the skillet, about another 5 minutes. Transfer to a baking sheet to cool. When cool, break apart with your hands.

Meanwhile, soak the red onion in ice water for about 10 minutes; drain and pat dry. Place the baby spinach in a serving bowl and top with the onions, mushrooms, tomatoes and walnuts. In a bowl whisk the remaining 2 tablespoons juice with the vinegar, 1/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper, and then whisk in the oil. Drizzle over the salad and toss just before serving.

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Thursday, September 8, 2016

Take The Challenge - 21 Days To A More Positive Mindset! (Amended)

I am on a mission.  I am tired of all this negativity that we hear media, internet, news, magazines, negativity is everywhere!  The reality is that all of this negativity we are exposed to is beginning to take its toll. Not only does being exposed to constant negativity impact our emotional wellness it can also impact our health.  Studies have shown a direct correlation between stress, emotional trauma and our health. It's important that we learn to change our mindset and start taking control over our negative thoughts and outlooks.

Below are the steps that will help you change your mindset to a more positive one. Try doing one each day for 21 days.  You will begin to see a change.  You will like how you are starting to feel.  You may even begin to incorporate some of them in your daily life.  Give it a try...take control of your thoughts, start focusing on the good..CHANGE YOUR MINDSET .

 I started out full of expectations in 2016...then things started falling apart.  I knew I had to do something to change the negative self-talk that was beginning to roll around in my head.  I the steps below and today I can definitely say that my outlook has changed to a much more positive one.  I am excited and happy in my life everyday...even when it gets tough thanks to these steps! I did each one, one day at a time for 21 days!  Enjoy!

Day 1   Delete negative words from your vocabulary (e.g, “never”, “can’t” and “try”). Identify  when you tend to use negative words.  If you say something negative, follow up that  statement with a positive one.  For example” “I just can’t run.” Follow up: “I can walk on the treadmill." 

Day 2 Read something inspirational, such as a devotional, scripture, self-improvement essay, anything that inspires and uplifts you.

Day 3 Avoid complaining today. (having a bad hair day, weather is bad, hate the traffic…)  When you find yourself getting ready to complain, say something you’re grateful for  instead. 

Day 4 Take it one step further and write down five things you are grateful for and tell a close friend. Joy is contagious. 

Day 5   Use a dry erase marker to write down on your mirror five things you love about yourself.   

Day 6  Do something nice for a total stranger today (give a compliment; pay it forward) 

Day 7  Journal your feelings, your frustrations, joys, fears and dreams. 

Day 8  Create three positive affirmations and repeat them at least three times throughout the day (e.g., "Today will be a good day.")  

Day 9  Focus on something you've been putting and create a detailed plan on how you will finish it

Day 10  Catch up with a friend in person.  Invite them out for lunch or coffee.  

Day 11  Avoid watching/reading/listening to the news today unless it is an inspirational story.  

Day 12 Treat yourself today.  It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. Some of the best ways to  treat yourself cost very little (visiting an art gallery, buying the newest paperback novel,  getting a pedicure, eating your favorite desert)  

Day 13  Do one thing today that can improve your finances (make your lunch instead of going out to eat or pay off a dept) 

Day 14 Laughter is good for the soul, so find a way to laugh, such as watching your favorite comedy.

Day 15  Relax and Release: Get a massage, take a yoga class, or enjoy a warm bath.

Day 16  De-clutter your space, whether it’s your work area, bathroom or car 

Day 17  Conquer your feat by doing something that genuinely scares you - ride a roller coaster, hold a snake, give a speech ...etc.  The purpose is to learn to move past your fears. Learn that you can conquer them and be victorious. It is a great feeling.

Day 18  Engage in concentration exercises.  For example, select a positive word and repeat it silently for three minutes.

Day 19 Engage in an outdoor activity you enjoy 

Day 20 Enjoy quiet time alone.  Give your phone to a trusted friend/family member or coworker for an hour.   

Day 21 Go technology free today and encourage your family to do the same.  No cell phones, computers, tablets, TV.  Enjoy the day with your family.

To find out more ways to decrease your stress, increase your joy and health click here. 

Are you using that inner voice - your intuition to direct you to better decisions, better health, and more joy? Learn how to listen to that voice click here

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

5 Tips To Accelerate Joy, Wellness and Blessings in Your Life

It's time to accelerate the joy, wellness and blessings your life!

Have you noticed how time seems to be accelerating? Time literally does "fly by" Life appears to happen so quickly! Instead of complaining about how quickly time passes. I decided to give some thought about how I could leverage the quick passing of time to my advantage. Since time is passing so quickly I want to find a way to accelerate all the good that I know our Creator has. Hence my 5 ways to accelerate wellness, joy and peace.

Make It a Priority to Spend Quiet Time Everyday - since time goes by so fast these days we don't take the time to slow down enough for quiet time. This is a mistake. We need that down time. We need to just stop,be quite and allow our thoughts to slow down...or better yet STOP. Whether you pray, meditate or both, plan to take at least 5 minutes a day. Whether it is first thing in the morning, during the day, or before you go to bed. Taking the time to be quiet has huge benefits:
  • can lower your heart rate
  • helps your body to relax
  • allows you to hear that inner voice that leads, guides and directs you
  • can lower blood pressure
  • helps you to make better decisions
  • gets rid of that overwhelmed, stressed out feeling
Increase Your "Happy" - Do something that brings you joy, makes you laugh, everyday. We spend a lot a time on "serious" stuff. All the more reason to begin to look for the "joy" the "happy" in every situation. There are many health and wellness benefits to having more laughter in your life. Here are just a few:
  • reduces your anxiety and depression
  • helps you sleep more soundly
  • increases your "happy" hormones
  • improves blood flow and circulation
  • boosts your immune system
  • improves your memory

Start Living a Life of Gratitude - Focusing on the good in your life not only helps you feel better but you will find yourself looking at life in a more positive way. There is so much for which to be thankful. Take a moment and think of 5 things you are thankful for right now. Bet it didn't take that long; did it? No matter how small, we need to focus on those things in our lives that are positive rather than focusing on negative stuff that happens in the course of a day. Living a life of gratitude has many benefits as well :
  • improves your physical health (few aches and pains, less illness)
  • improves your self-esteem
  • you will sleep better
  • enhances you mental strength
  • strengthens your relationships
  • good for the heart (improves hyper-tension)
Learn How To Minimize The Impact of Stress - Stress can lead to chronic disease, heart disease, obesity and cancer. It is difficult to get rid of all the stress we encounter on a daily basis. But we can minimize how it impacts our bodies. Here are a few things that can help your body out during stressful times:
  • eat foods that fortify your body when your stressed
  • get out in nature for just 15 minutes - take a brisk quick walk it is amazing how much better you feel
  • journal- write about how you are feeling, what happened that upset you, that caused you frustration and/or anger. Get it out!
  • take a Yoga - a wonderful movement for the body that focuses on breathing, stretching, and strength all of which are excellent when minimizing the impact of stress on your body
Take Better Care of Your Temple - You have heard this before. I know you are aware of the importance to take better care of your "temple", your body. It doesn't have to be difficult. In fact if you just stick to the basics it will take you a long way to living a better and happier life.
  • 30 minutes of movement a day ( you can split it up if you want - 15 min. in the am 15 min. in the pm)
  • drink half your body weight in water (add lemon to it and detox your liver)
  • get enough rest ( sleep 6 to 8 hours..take a 15 minute quick nap during the day if needed)
  • go to your medical practitioner and find out what is happening with you body and then if something needs to be addressed - ADDRESS IT!
  • increase your self-care and self-love

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